And probably there will be no memorial. Crematoria provide several ways to have one in place of a gravestone but my family is utterly united on this - we don't see the point as we have never been the kind of people to like to visit the grave. Our loved ones live on in our memories, and that's good enough for us.
Certainly for Dad, who never wanted any fuss. I'm sure he would have approved of what we did for him, which was a bare minimum half-hour funeral service in one of the two chapels there (the chapel was full of former work colleagues as well as family as he was only 58), cremation afterwards, and scattering of his ashes in the crematorium gardens. He wouldn't have liked us wasting money on doing any more. So it was the cheapest possible, with a plywood coffin that looked nice enough on the catafalque. Why waste money on a more expensive one when it's only going to be burned? (That's British law - the body MUST be cremated in the coffin.) And I will be equally annoyed if anyone does any more than that for me when my time comes. Not that I will be around to notice, of course!
I am a Buddhist and I am also 49. I just got married recently. I am an American living in Singapore. I have no children (I had a vasectomy). My wife has a young son that lives in her home country (not with us).
When I am gone, I only request to be cremated (standard practice for Buddhists). Her son gets my Rolex, the two houses his mom and I are buying, and what is left in my retirement account.
If I don't make 135 years of age I'll be wherever my family decides to plant me.
6 feet under
Um - I'm 70 years old. You figure it out.
Dead, unless I live to be 106.
Dead
