You're telling me it is wrong to deceive a person that loves me. You're saying that when I fake attraction and get him to marry me it's evil. It's not!
Over half of marriages end up in divorce (at least in the US where I live). So basically, you love someone for a little, marry, begin to hate them and then divorce. This is what I would do to the letter!
I would feign attraction, get him to marry me, a little later pretend to lose attraction over time, and then divorce. All the while, he would NEVER know I faked love, so it would be EXACTLY like ANY other marriage that ends in divorce. Except I would marry IF I need a little financial security at the time.
I'm asexual and a little aromantic, so it would pose a problem for sex, but I would just tell him I don't want sex (and hopefully he's an asexual/celibate) or else it wouldn't work would it? (And obv. no kids).
So you say marriage is for sex- it's not, many don't have sex anymore. You say marriage is for love- Kim K's 4 day marriage, arranged marriage, etc. Marriage is in its core for money and increased social status! That's all it was made for. Now that we don't have arrange marriages as much anymore we think we changed the definition of marriage but we didn't.
So tell me, if my partner would NEVER know I faked it, how am I so evil and wrong?
I'm 17 but would get married much LATER btw...
Marrying for Security.
First of all, it's funny that your question is in the "business & finance" section, rather than marriage. That right there tells me you have only thoughts about $$$$, and not love. I wouldn't exactly call you evil, but since you are only 17, I will call you clueless. You are clueless about love, and especially about marriage. Being only 17, that's perfectly understandable but what isn't, is assuming that people are unhappy with marriage. So basically you're saying that because others stick with their marriages because they're no longer in love, or they simply get divorced, then it's perfectly okay for you to marry someone for money but "fake" the love. No sex, no kids. Pretend to love but eventually get divorced and get a good amount of $$$.
But here is what you don't know; that many, many people not only stay in love over the years, but they get closer to their spouses. They don't "fake" anything. They understand what marriage is, and the joy it can bring. Now obviously, you don't care much about love. You are only thinking about YOUR financial security. Here is what I recommend; make sure you get out there and WORK, because you will want to support yourself. And besides, since you don't care about actual love or being with someone you care about, why not get into a fulfilling career? Don't you want to do something with your life, other than be a fake, non-caring gold-digger?
It may not sound evil to you, and it may also not sound like a cruel thing to do. You fail to the understand a few things however. The fact you're letting your greed get into your head and making someone a fool by leading them on so you can get better credit is most definitely wrong, many people in the business world get married to one another BECAUSE they want more money and better credit. Unless you want to become yet another floozy with evil-intentions, I suggest you skip your plans and find new ways to make bank.
Older people do this sometimes for security. At the age of 17 it would be unwise because you will change a lot over the years. What seems reasonable at this age might not be in 10 years.
Yes, for a immature 17 year old you are evil, selfish, egotistic, conceited. vain etc. Please do mankind a favor and get a good job that will support you in the manner you feel necessary and don't bewitch some innocent guy into being your meal ticket until your plan to dump him arrives. You surely are less than an honest individual.
You are young and looking for ways to make money the easy way. All I will say is... How would you feel if you had money and someone made you fall in love with them but they were only using you. Please, dont play with someones emotions. You will affect their life forever in a negative way and you will have a hard time looking yourself in the mirror everyday.
Do the right thing.
If they really have as much money as you say, they might be smart enough to make you sign a pre-nup
Ever read this post and response? Pretty spot on for you:
http://blog.relationshipsurgery.com/girl...
calculating AND evil
wow
no guy is dumb enough to fall for yoru fake act, let alone one with money
i think you are VASTLY underestimating guys intelligence here
that and the fact any guy with money will come with a cast iron prenup
... and when you finally fall in love with somebody, you would be quite happy for them to use you for sex ... no difference really.
