She works 40hrs/week I pay for her phone , car insurance, for the utilities, rent and mow the lawn. She want me to raw dog he and *** in her all the time. I tell her I can't afford a kid and she still encourages me to do it. She pays her gas and car payments monthly and I asked her if she could keep herself in shape (like yanking teeth) she always says I focus on the negative and never the positives and that Im to demanding of her. She cooks once in awhile but mostly comes home from work lays down for 4-5hrs after eats and thats it. This is getting old and does anyone else who has been dealing with this have any offers of advice to change it?

You don't say what you make or what hours you work. What you two should do is add your earnings, then add up expenses- bills, food, necessities, gas, etc. Split up what's left, minus some put in savings. Figure how many hours each of you works in and out of the house. If it's very uneven, show her the facts, your math. if she refuses to even things up, tell her you two need counseling. If she refuses, you have to choose whether to keep going as you are. And if you find out tjhings are more even than you think? Well, you owe her a foot rub or something.

Change it? LOL!!

Why in the hell do you think women want to get married so bad and divorced so quick? Once you do it, your force to pay her to get rid of her laziness!! Its like relationship insurance!!! She does not have to changed!!! All she has to do is wait for you to get sick of it to the point were you want a divorce and then all she has to do is wait for you to send her checks!!!

So you might as well stop paying for everything now and except the fact that YOU are the one who made her lazy by paying for everything!!! She is just taking what you give her!!

Seem like you dont want anything to do with her because you are complaining about having to "raw dog her and nutt in her all the time"

You are nagging about her coming" home from work lays down for 4-5hrs after eats and thats it." At least she isnt in your face nagging and work.

If she dont want to keep her self in shape. Oh well just bend her big butt over and ram it from the back or make her get on her knees.

You are crying and whining like you are the woman in the house. Simply leave her and let somebody like me nutt in her since you are crying about doing it. Ill lay down with her for four or five hours while rubbing her back and feet for her. You guys can spilt the house hold duties. Dont like what i said then get a marriage counselor and work on your issues or a shrink

Best of luck

You sound like a whinny a$$. At least she works if you don't want to pay her bills then don't but marriage is a lifetime partnership. I suggest you go to therapy and try to balance out the duties.

she needs to have you and her go for a walk after she eats, not lie down, that will help trim the body and work off the calories

Don't reproduce.

get a divorce and stop being a fill in the blank!